1. Marriage is not for quitters:
Marriage is not a sprint but a marathon. Embrace challenges and believe that perseverance is the key to a lasting relationship.
2. You will feel proud of yourself looking back knowing that you honored your vows:
Through the highs and lows, you will back on the years together with a sense of accomplishment. Take pride in the commitment that you make to each other on their wedding day.
3. If you do marriage right, it will bring out the best in you and in your spouse:
A healthy marriage is a journey of mutual growth. You inspire each other to become better individuals, bringing out the best in themselves and each other.
4. Sex is important but not the only thing in marriage:
While intimacy is an integral part of the relationship, you two understand the emotional connection, communication, and shared experiences are equally important.
5. When younger, make love as much as you can, enjoy it. A time is coming when all you have are memories:
Embrace passion and enjoy the physical aspect of the relationship. As time passes, you cherish these memories, knowing that the intensity might change but the love could deepen.
6. Friends will come and go, you will know so many people as a married person, but keep your spouse your priority:
You will encounter numerous people throughout the journey, but always make sure that the relationship remains the top priority amidst the comings and goings of friends.
7. Don’t stay together for children, eventually they will leave you two. What will you have to hold?
Recognizing that children will eventually build lives of their own, focus on maintaining a strong connection beyond parenthood.
8. Growing old doesn’t mean you cannot make your spouse feel special, keep making his/her heart beat:
Even as wrinkles etch on your faces and silver adorned the hair, continue to make each other feel cherished. Understood the importance of keeping the flame alive.
9. Do not harden your heart, otherwise marriage will be too great a burden:
Do not let bitterness take root. Choose forgiveness over resentment, ensuring that the love remains resilient.
10. Do not hold grudges, otherwise stress will kill you:
Understand the toll of unresolved conflicts, and learn to forgive and chose to let go of grievances, easing the burdens that can otherwise weigh you down.
11. Even though you two are married, don’t forget to build yourself, and work on your goals as an individual. Don’t lose you:
While prioritizing marriage, pursue also your own personal growth. Encourage each other to chase dreams, because a thriving partnership requires two fulfilled individuals.
12. Not every advice is good advice. Discern:
Amidst the sea of opinions, learn to discern what advice is beneficial for your unique relationship. Acknowledge that not every piece of guidance applies to your journey.
13. Love your spouse the best way you can, not as a reward to your spouse for treating you right, but because you have personally chosen to:
Love is not transactional; it is a choice. Love each other unconditionally, not as a response to actions but as a commitment u willingly embrace.
14. It is not for you to say you are a good husband/wife but for your spouse to say I have a good husband/wife:
Understood that the true measure of your roles as husband and wife is to lay in the perception of the other. Aim to be the partners your spouse is proud to call their own.
15. Don’t work too hard chasing after money for your family that you lose your family:
In the pursuit of providing, be mindful not to sacrifice the very essence of your union. Work to live rather than live to work, and understand that true wealth lay in the love you share.
16. Praying for your spouse is your personal responsibility that you cannot delegate to another person:
Spirituality played a crucial role in their lives. Individually take the responsibility to pray for each other, fostering a connection that goes beyond the physical and emotional realms.
17. Start each day with warm words and the tone of the day will be good:
Every morning, begin the day with expressions of love and gratitude. Setting a positive tone early on paves the way for harmony throughout the day.
18. Don’t be scared of aging, be scared of aging without a purpose or a legacy in mind:
Embracing the inevitability of aging, focus on creating a meaningful legacy, ensuring that the wisdom and love you cultivate will endure beyond your years.
19. As you work, think about retirement. Save, invest, plan. You will not always have the energy you have:
Understanding the impermanence of youth, plan for the future, ensure financial stability and security in your golden years.
20. Mothers, don’t hurt your children with words. Mummy wounds are difficult to heal from:
Understood the weight of your words and chose them carefully, mindful of the lasting impact they could have on your children. Be a source of comfort rather than pain.
21. Remember what you sow in your younger years of marriage, you will reap in your older years:
Sow seeds of love, respect, and commitment early in your marriage, reap the rewards as you navigate the later stages of life.
22. You may pretend to the outside world you two are happy but behind closed doors, you two know the true state of your union. Stop living a public lie, have true love:
Be transparent with each other, ensuring that your love is genuine and not a facade for the outside world. Value authenticity over societal expectations.
23. If you feel like quitting; step back, breathe, be objective and most likely you will realize you don’t have to quit. Don’t always trust feelings, wait them out:
In moments of doubt, give each other space to breathe. Understand the transient nature of emotions and chose patience over hasty decisions.
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